What is self-harm?
Self-harm means deliberately hurting yourself, such as cutting, burning, scratching or hitting, usually as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions, numbness or distress. It is often a sign that someone is in a lot of pain and has not yet found other ways to cope.
Self-harm is not attention-seeking, and many people keep it hidden. With the right support, people learn other ways to handle intense feelings, and the urges to self-harm fade.
Signs someone may be self-harming
- Unexplained cuts, burns or bruises, often on arms, legs or stomach
- Wearing long sleeves or covering up in warm weather
- Withdrawing from friends and family
- Big mood swings, or seeming numb and shut down
- Talking about feeling worthless or hopeless
When to seek help
Any self-harm is a reason to reach out. If you are a parent who has found signs of self-harm, stay calm, listen, and get help. You do not have to have all the answers.
If you are in crisis or thinking about suicide, call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.