Watch Dr Sylvia Gearing on YouTube describe how nostalgia and remembering the good times can actually be good for your health - click here.
Part of the magic of family is getting together and revisiting family traditions – eating a family meal together at the holidays, watching the same movie, or singing the same songs. But did you know that those nostalgic feelings are actually good for you?
In a recent study, nostalgia was found to have a physically comforting and relaxing effect on the body. Subjects had lower blood pressure, calm heart rates, and lower levels of anxiety.
So if you’re looking to take the edge off of your stressful day, take a trip down memory lane and remember everything that you have to be thankful for.
Source:
“The Power of Nostalgia at Thanksgiving” by Jacque Wilson, CNN.com
Watch Dr Sylvia Gearing on YouTube share the secrets to the new kind of foreplay - click here.
Wine and candles may no longer be necessary to help get her in the mood, fellas.
A new study found that intimate conversations about the relationship and commitment made women crave physical intimacy. In fact, women said that pillow talk was far more important before sex than after, and they felt closer and more attracted to their partners.
So if you’re hoping to improve your chances for tonight, make sure to have a conversation before you make a move.
Watch Dr Sylvia Gearing share how cuddling is important to both men and women in relationships - click here.
With Valentine's Day right around the corner, millions of Americans will be snuggling up with their partners in front of the fire. We all know that cuddling is important in any relationship to build intimacy between partners, but most people think that men are just putting up with what their women want.
However, new research has found that frequent kissing and cuddling were found to have the largest effects on how men felt about their relationship! Men were happier with their partner when they had more cuddle time. In fact, they may even crave more non-sexual contact than women! But don’t think women aren’t happy with cuddle time – it was found to have a large effect on their ratings of sexual and relationship satisfaction.
So go ahead and snuggle up in front of the fire. It should make your nights a little brighter.
Watch Dr Sylvia Gearing on YouTube explain how you can protect yourself and the ones you love from domestic violence - click here.
A recent study released by the CDC found that one in four American women have been severely beaten or assaulted by a romantic partner.
Here’s how you can protect yourself from a violent partner:
Denial Is Your Biggest Liability: Most women underestimate the threat and do not recognize the warning signs such as a history of possessiveness, intimidation, and overly jealous behavior. These are psychological "red flags" warning you of potential danger. Pay attention.
Intuition Is Your Best Defense: Thirty one thousand women die each year in America and the majority die at the hands of a romantic partner. Respect your own intuition about your partner and don't talk yourself down or normalize violent behavior. Stop debating and prosecuting your own observations. Your brain is hardwired to protect you, pick up on signs of danger, and tell you to run.
Speed Is Your Best Strategy: If you are threatened, respond quickly. Do not hesitate and remain frozen. Experts estimate that you have approximately five seconds to make a difference in your own self-defense and potentially save your own life. Move quickly and get out of the dangerous situation.
If you fear your partner, you must surrender your life to getting away from him and remaining safe. Remember that you cannot reason with him, convince him, or change him since he is intent upon reclaiming you as a possession. He only wants to regain control.
Make sure to not take this step on your own – please contact a local group, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE, or visit TheHotline.org. These organizations can help you find a safe place to live, set up new jobs and bank accounts, and can help you take care of your kids. They all have the strategies and knowledge to help you leave safely and successfully.
Source:
“1 in 4 US women victims of severe violence” by Mike Stobbe, Associated Press
Watch Dr Sylvia on YouTube discuss warning signs that you may be in danger at home - click here.
A recent study issued by the CDC found that one in four women had been severely beaten or assaulted in a previous romantic relationship. Many women are wondering how they can protect themselves against a possible threat at home.
Here are some warning signs of a potentially violent partner:
Fast Paced Relationships: Societal definitions of how long a couple should be together before getting married were established for a reason. Many violent men and predators want to move very quickly in a relationship and go too fast. They are trying to establish control over you and get you into a bad situation.
Won’t Take No For An Answer: Anyone who will not hear “no” as an answer is trying to control you. Too often, when men say “no” that is the end of the conversation. However, some men view a “no” from a woman as the beginning of a negotiation. When you say no, mean it and follow through on it. Whether it’s for coming upstairs after a date or a marriage proposal, don’t let him bully you with what looks like persistence.
Symbolic Violence: This behavior includes the destruction of objects dear to the partner or symbolic to the relationship. The intention is to intimidate the other person and cause emotional havoc. Destroying wedding pictures, personal items like perfume or lingerie, or even violence against a beloved pet are all efforts to symbolically bully.
Physical violence can never be undone and has permanent effects on relationships. Make sure to protect yourself and watch out for these red flags in your relationship.
Check back tomorrow to learn how to protect yourself from domestic violence and how you can stop it.
Source:
“1 in 4 US women victims of severe violence” by Mike Stobbe, Associated Press
Watch Dr Sylvia Gearing on YouTube describe why abusive men move to violence against their romantic partners - click here.
There are two broad categories of men who become violent in relationships:
The first is the man who controls at all costs:
- They usually have controlling and contemptuous personalities – they seem like leaders and social people, but they always want to be in control.
- They regard their wife or girlfriend as a possession, not a person.
- They show the classic signs of anger management issues – flashes of anger for no reason, violent behavior such as punching the wall, and regularly overreacting to innocent comments.
- Finally, they are unable to take responsibility for their behavior - the other person made them do it or it was someone else’s fault.
The second type is the overly emotionally dependent man. He needs constant attention and adoration from his partner to feel worthy:
- When his partner disagrees or attempts to individuate with friends or family outside the relationship, he is devastated.
- He seeks to isolate her and establish control by becoming all she’s got.
- If he cannot assume or resume control or connection, his obsession will lead him to a total self-destruction or maybe even a psychotic episode that could include dangerous or life threatening behavior.
Watch out for these signs and protect yourself from abusive men. It’s much easier to get out early in the relationship than later on.
Check back tomorrow the learn to spot a potentially abusive partner and the warning signs for when a relationship could become violent.
Source:
“1 in 4 US women victims of severe violence” by Mike Stobbe, Associated Press
Watch Dr Sylvia on Viddler discuss why domestic violence rates are so high in America - click here.
A recent study released by the CDC found that one in four women have been severely beaten by their intimate partners while in a relationship. With the rates of violence so high, many women are concerned about their safety.
But first, why are relationship violence rates so high?
We’ve known for years that women are more often the victims of domestic violence, but these numbers speak to a deepening problem in American couples. Too many modern couples replace words and negotiation with intimidation and bullying.
Bullies believe that if they don’t get their way, that they can threaten or intimidate others to control the outcome. Such behaviors in general society have translated into how we act in our marriages. These violent habits now thrive in intimate relationships where there are no witnesses and very sadly, no accountability.
Check back tomorrow to find out how relationship violence develops in relationships and how it can get out of control.
Source:
“1 in 4 US women victims of severe violence” by Mike Stobbe, Associated Press
Watch Dr Sylvia on YouTube explain what to do if your first name is holding you back in life - click here.
A recent study in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science found that your first name could have unintended ill effects on your future life! The effects were felt in everything from job searches to the dating scene!
With findings like that, many people are wondering how to change or downplay their names. I have seen three trends that work:
Abbreviate: Abbreviate your name and make it more common and traditional in social settings. For example, you can use your initials or part of the name as a handle.
Adopt Your Last Name: Use your last name as your nickname or use a similar name such as substituting Jack for John. People who have pleasant last names can shorten it and add a “y” to the end – names like “Sully” and “Scotty.”
Give Up on Your Name Entirely: The final option is to change your name completely -- sometimes people despise their name so much that they lose the name. They legally change the name to one that reflects who they are now. If a dramatic name change is done in adulthood, it can be unsettling for the parents. However, putting up with a name you can’t stand is unfair in the long run.
Sources:
Parent Magazine
“Generation Me” by Jean Twenge
“Freakonomics” by Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner
Watch Dr Sylvia Gearing on YouTube describe why your first name may be more important than you think - click here.
A recent study in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science found that your first name could have unintended effects on the rest of your life! The effects could be felt in many different arenas from your love life all the way to your job search!
Here’s why your first name may be more important than you think:
Typecasting: Remember that your name is the first impression that you make on someone. It sets the stage for how people will view and treat you because like it or not -- people have preconceived ideas about names, both good and bad.
Generational Names: Because names are so generation based, many people have preconceived notions about you based on what generation your name came from. For example, Barbara gives a very different impression than Emerson.
Target of Bullying: Kids can be cruel and children with odd names often have an extra burden in the classroom and on the playground. Your name can also affect how you feel about yourself. If you always have to explain your name, it can be socially challenging.
Job Prospects: Highly unique names can make it even harder in the job market. Research finds that there is a prejudice in responding to job candidates based on their first names, usually from some personal experience with someone who shares the name.
Source:
Parent Magazine
“Generation Me” by Jean Twenge
“Freakonomics” by Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner
Dr. Sylvia Gearing discusses why baby names are such big business now - click here.
Naming your baby has become big business in recent years with hundreds of baby naming websites, books, and even baby naming experts! Here are some of the larger trends in baby naming today:
Family Naming: Families pass down traditional family names from relatives that honor that family member and generations past. A popular trend is for many parents to name their daughters with the last names of their forefathers or foremothers. Many parents think that the daughter to carrying the family name as her own first name is empowering.
Cultural Naming: The larger cultural background is the guiding value and parents strive to either invent a new name or borrow an established name from that culture or religion. The name ties the child to their country of origin or an important family cultural value.
Inspirational Naming: Parents decide to give their kids the names that reflect an important value. Names like Liberty, Promise, and Freedom are all examples of this type of naming.
Whimsical Naming: Names like Apple, Blue Ivy or Bronx Mogley are all examples of the creative, utterly new name that sets their baby apart. They prefer that the name be different, rare, and even odd rather than something plain or common.
Sources:
Parent Magazine
“Generation Me” by Jean Twenge
“Freakonomics” by Steven Levitt and Stephen Dubner
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