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The Truth Behind How To Spot A Liar - By Chris Gearing

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Watch Dr. Sylvia Gearing on the CW 33 discussing how you can spot a liar - click here.

Read the story featuring Dr. Sylvia Gearing on the CW 33 - click here.

Reposted from "The Truth Behind How To Spot A Liar" by Selena Hernandez on the CW 33

Everyone’s guilty of doing it; to deny it would mean you’re probably lying.

Studies have shown, on average, a person will tell two lies and hour. What’s more, studies suggest one out of every 10 texts is a lie. But, you don’t have to find yourself trapped in someone’s web of deceit.

“I would say without a doubt, everyone lies,” Dr. Sylvia Gearing said.

Dr. Sylvia Gearing is a psychologist and author. She has extensively studied liars and their behavior patterns. She revealed people lie for two reasons: either to spare someone else’s feelings or to make a situation easier for themselves.

“We call those lies of concealment; we just don’t tell all of the truth, we just edit the truth to suit our purposes.”

Dr. Gearing added liars tend to focus on their words, so they’re quick to forget about their facial features.

“They forget what their face looks like, and that’s where the clues are – always.”

Gearing offered some obvious clues to look for, if you feel like someone is out to dupe you.

  • slow, deliberate pauses when speaking
  • repeating the question you just asked
  • smiling out of context
  • a nervous, shaking foot or leg

“People who are lying are dead set, there’s a mask,” Dr. Gearing explained. “They’re smiling, and they’re controlling their presentation and their words that way.”

We recruited the help of four Nightcap staff members: Jennifer, Keith, Christian and Keisha. For every question we asked, they each gave two responses: one is the truth and the other is a lie. Can you spot the lie?

Question #1 “What did you do last night?”

Jennifer: “Last night, I walked my dog and went to bed around nine o’clock.”

Jennifer: “I passed out candy to trick-or-treaters.”

If you guessed the lie was the first response – you’re right!

Dr. Gearing said it was the subtleties in her facial expression. “Nine o’clock –her mouth went up, and then she frowned”

Question #2 “What did you have for breakfast?”

Keith: “I went to the Pancake House and had their apple turnover pancake with, uh, with some coffee. I think that was it.”

Keith: “I had cereal.”

The lie was the first response. Dr. Gearing offered some perspective. “There was too much stalling and making up as he went along, and again, too much detail. People who want to manipulate you, over tell you.”

Question #3 ”Have you ever been in a car accident?”

Christian: “Yes, I’ve been in a couple car accidents, um, but they’ve never been my fault. They’re usually somebody hitting me.”

Christian: “I have been in a couple car accidents, and um, they have all been my fault.”

Again, the first response was a lie.

“When he had to pause, he took a little more time to get that lie out because he’s not used to lying,” Dr. Gearing said.

Question #4 “Have you ever told a lie because you thought you could get away with it?”

Keisha: “Yes, several.”

Keisha: “No. I’ve never told a lie, um, not even a white one, no.”

The obvious lie here, was the second response.

“She lies by exaggerating the facts,” Dr. Gearing noted. “She enjoyed it when she was saying it. Nevertheless, it gave her away – it was a dead giveaway.”

Visual clues to keep in mind, the next time you find yourself trying to call someone’s bluff.


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