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Teens Who Murder - By Chris Gearing

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Teens Who Murder

CBS 11 News

by Dr. Sylvia Gearing

This summer has seen a rash of parents murdering their children. However, a new demographic is on the rise - children and teens who kill their parents.

But is this common?

Teens tend to kill other teens. Homicide is the leading cause of death for young people ages 10 to 24 overall, and the leading cause of death for African American teens. Eighty five percent of murdered teens are male and most were involved in some sort of physical fight that led to murder. Males are 400% more likely to be murdered than females.

Homicides are highly predictable if we pay attention to what we are observing. Learning to predict violence is the cornerstone to learning to prevent violence.

Here are the warning signs in teens:

  • Lack of Conscience
  • Angry Outbursts
  • History of Oppositional Behaviors
  • Actual Threats—written, spoken
  • Past Acts of violence
  • Access to Weapons
  • Past Suicide Attempts
  • Family History of Violence or Bullying
  • Cruelty to animals

But what pushes a teen over the edge into homicide?

A person arrives at a tipping point and decides to act violently when four conditions are met:

  • They feel justified
  • They perceive few or no alternatives
  • They believe that the consequences will be favorable
  • They believe that they have the ability to succeed

Do peers have any influence on a child's decision to murder?

Sinister Looks:

The withdrawal, the surly attitude, the overreactions about normal issues, the dark and sinister looks are all indications that something is terribly wrong with the teen.

Generation Me:

The child who is grandiose, self centered, exhibitionistic, entitled, shameless, arrogant and defiant may also feel justified in turning to violence if it suits his purpose.

No Conscience:

The sociopathic child who delights in the pain and suffering of others, who has no moral compass, who is paranoid and fearful of others, who is vengeful if slighted is a prime candidate for becoming homicidal and for taking your child with him.

Parents, here's how to know if your child is in trouble:

The worst mistake parents make is to ignore what they are seeing right in front of them. Intuition is our warning system built into our brains specially developed to allow us to predict violence and to avoid it.

Here are the signs of intuition:

  • Nagging Feelings and Persistent Thoughts
  • Black Humor—Jokes such as “He’s just going to shoot us all!”
  • Hunches and Gut Feelings
  • Hesitation and Suspicion
  • Uncontrollable Fear

Stop Denying:

Many adults prefer to view violence as a normal “rite of passage” through childhood. Nothing could be further from the truth. Please educate yourself about this pattern of trauma and train yourself to recognize it when you see it.

Bystanders Are Key:

Research now argues that the bystanders of potential violence are one of the vital keys to decreasing this growing problem with teen violence. Speak up, speak out and get your teen the professional help to evaluate his potential for violence. You may save his life and the lives of those you love.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments below!


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